Wed, 2 January 2008 Dear Friends, I often encourage my clients to take ballroom dancing classes. The more we understand leading and following the more successful we are in all areas of living. But I also suggest they study kick-boxing. Kick-boxing teaches us how to defend our boundaries. It releases energy. It offers a sense of safety. Both kick-boxing and ballroom teach us how to be social beings. Looking forward to all your comments. I wish I had the time to respond to each one. Blessings to all, Lynn Category: The Twelve Holy Nights -- posted at: 11:16 PM Comments[5] |
I tend to sway back and forth with leading and following, but not yet in "tune" with my polarities to be at a graceful swing, although I'm extremely grateful to be learning about them and their differences and will make the best to expand in my thoughts to becoming a more patient and creative thinker and doer.
Thank you again Lynn and all for your diverse and thoughtful words.
Hugs~
Thank you again Lynn and all for your diverse and thoughtful words.
Hugs~
posted by: Christine on Thu, 1/3 08:04 AM EST
I have taken ballroom dancing lessons. In the beginning I felt overwhelmed by my partner,he tended to bully rather than lead when I was not able to satisfy him with my following. The good news is that it did get better in that I became a better follower, he a more sensitive leader. Now I feel that we need to work on our active polar strengths. This of course, is a metaphor, a reflection of our realtionship as well.
As I was contemplating this interesting polarity I realized that I was often sad, distressed and angry with my parents, even as a very young child, for the weaknesses in their leading and following. I wanted them to "get it" and I longed to experince the strength in their leading me in my life and my sibs. I wanted to experience that harmony within that polarity within our family. I am making progress in finding that balance now in my life and my relationships. I think in analogies a lot, so I am grateful for this opportunity to do the work of my inner soul at this introspective time of the year when darkness and light are so meaningful. Thank you, Lynn.
As I was contemplating this interesting polarity I realized that I was often sad, distressed and angry with my parents, even as a very young child, for the weaknesses in their leading and following. I wanted them to "get it" and I longed to experince the strength in their leading me in my life and my sibs. I wanted to experience that harmony within that polarity within our family. I am making progress in finding that balance now in my life and my relationships. I think in analogies a lot, so I am grateful for this opportunity to do the work of my inner soul at this introspective time of the year when darkness and light are so meaningful. Thank you, Lynn.
So often we think of the role of "leaders" as having more importance in whatever aspect we are considering. However, without effective "followers," there can be no effective leadership. The two polarities must work together as one in any area of life. Ballroom dancing is a wonderful metaphor for so many situations. May we all be blessed with the awareness of which role we are to assume whenever the opportunity presents itself and retain the flexibility to take on either one.
It was lovely dancing these polarities Lynn... I am grateful to have my dance practice to continue to push me to move fluidly from leader to follower, being sensitive to the changes that come in a heart beat... Thank you!
posted by: Lea on Fri, 1/4 12:51 AM EST
Each of the night's polarities have come up in my daily experience, often before I read the daily message. What serendipity! This particular message on leading and following with the metaphor of dancing sent me into deep recollection. When I learned ballroom dancing at the impressionable hormone changing age of 12 or 13, there were not enough boys in the class, so some of the girls had to lead. I've been leading ever since, and also developed a sort of selective dyslexia. When I become uncomfortable in following I just switch to leading. What some see as my "natural" leadership may come in part from my challenge of not knowing how to follow. This "ah ha" has given me opportunity to explore this aspect of my life and my relationships and I am grateful for the challenge. Thank you again, Lynn, for stepping up my growth a notch. You make a wonder full difference in our worlds, I can see from all these comments!
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